I used to believe that if I was nice, honest and truly good hearted people would care about me because generally speaking I feel I am very warm and open to pretty much everyone. Most of my closest friends feel the same about their own lives.
To my surprise, this is not always the case. No one owes us and not everyone is nice. Just because the world is not always nice does not mean that we cannot be.
However, regardless of what people may do to hurt us I say we continue to live in a humble state of grace, gratitude, sharing with a happy attitude. It lifts the positive energy and you end up sharing L.O.V.E.
A few things to consider while acting in this fashion:
1) You never really know someone else’s cross. They may not even know they are hurting your feelings.
2) If they do know, shame is on them not you. Let them deal with it or not. If you were promised contact then not received it, maybe that person is not able. If they lied or broke a promise again, it is on them.
3) When giving and practicing random acts of kindness we are not supposed to be rewarded with “kudos”. I was always taught to not air my donations or throw up to someone what I may have done for them. I really try not to.
4) When you feel ignored, find something to do so you can feel better.
For the past several years of my personal life I have been feeling left aside due to the fact that in laws and even my own relatives don’t take the time to stop and call or ask how I am. Because they all know of most of my hardships, I feel alone, often resentful of them not doing something. I began to wonder what did I expect them to say or do. Are they even capable? Do they care? Why do I need to care so much? I examined myself carefully. Soul searching is a hard thing but can be rewarding. You’d be surprise what you find. Being a victim emotionally is not much fun. It serves no purpose.
Honestly, does it matter? I suppose my Grandfather would say that it should but life isn’t always so cut and dry. I stopped to think that they have their own set of issues. Maybe I should reach out to them more. See how you can flip this? I can call too! If they don’t respond so what. I don’t know all the issues that are going on with those people so who I am to judge?
Then there are some people that no matter how you try, forgive or reach out they ignore you. You may have even said you were sorry if you did something to upset them or anger them. Okay, what about that? If you are really sorry coming from a loving heartfelt place then that is all there is. Forgiveness is a rough one. To error is human, you know the rest.
We could but shouldn’t live our lives in constant drama and fear. We shouldn’t be judging this one, that one. I miss people, often tried to figure them out. I wondered what part I played, if any. In the end I can start to see that it matters not. God deals with each of us accordingly. His grace and mercy are suffice. All I can do is expect nothing from no one, live in gratitude and keep a good attitude. I have to gain a better sense of faith.
Being a practicing Intuitive does not make me powerful or crazy. I am human. I have feelings. Maybe I am very emotional and some people cannot handle that. I cannot deal with people who show little to no emotion. I need contact and communication. I love being social. I love loving! I love and hurt deeply. I dislike drama. (I am terrific at creating it but I am choosing not to do that)
Goals: This week I am living in grace, gratitude and love. No matter who says or does what I will not change this course. I will practice every day to be GRATEFUL for all I have and do not have. Often when we don’t have something, it shows us what we DO have. (I challenge you to make some goals)
I will not gripe about the people who have hurt me intentionally or unintentionally. I will send them love because I do love them in spite of anything.
I will be happy and say thank you to the people who are in my life, who do show up and care. I love them as well.
I will take lessons from my dog that is new to my family. Most of you already know my two Shepherds passed away within a 5 week period because of old age. They had fabulous lives but when they passed my heart went with them. Unexpectedly I adopted/rescued this crazy, goofy smaller Shepherd who did not know what a treat was. She would cower to me for no reason, snapped at a family member for whatever her reasons were. She has had a rough start. A few months have gone by and she is playing, expecting treats, enjoying her cool home safe from all the rain. She is loving, sweet and starting to understand its okay. She has no expectations except that she is living in complete gratitude and joy. Her name is Joy. I re-named her for a reason. My other dogs were here since puppies and they never new anything but love. (Coral and Rizz I love and miss you)
Our animals don’t have these egos, they just are. They forgive and could care less who is who. I think I like that attitude. They are also so grateful for love, food, attention and life.
Some things to do to stay grateful: Donate to a local shelter. Even $1.00 matters
Visit a Hospital and spend 5 minutes with someone who is ill.
Watch children play at a playground
Witness a sunrise or sunset
Volunteer for one hour at your local Humane Society
Think of Our Military scattered around the world.
You don’t need money or material things to find grace and blessings.
Look at things with your heart. A close friend of mine once told another friend that if he listened and looked with his heart he would find the right girl. I hope someday he does. If we look with our hearts when can find the attitude of gratitude. Life is about little things. We start with just one thought and action we can then spin off from that. After a while it becomes a healthy mental lifestyle.
If we pray with an open channel, our prayers are sincere. They can make a difference.
I would love to hear back from anyone who has any great suggestions or what you may have tried.