We get ourselves in ruts, we worry, we fear. We project and I have noticed that which we so fear we can bring to ourselves. Often when we project or think something is going to happen, we worry ourselves sick. Most often it never happens. So why then do we worry? I imagine its human nature to worry. Yet worrying never added a day to anyone’s life. It can remove days from our lives.
Worrying is usually focused on the future—on what might happen and what you’ll do about it. The centuries-old practice of mindfulness can help you break free of your worries by bringing your attention back to the present. In contrast to the previous techniques of challenging your anxious thoughts or postponing them to a worry period, this strategy is based on observing and then letting them go. Together, they can help you identify where your thinking is causing problems, while helping you get in touch with your emotions.
Some ways to help:
- Acknowledge and observe your anxious thoughts and feelings. Don’t try to ignore, fight, or control them like you usually would. Instead, simply observe them as if from an outsider’s perspective, without reacting or judging.
- Let your worries go. Notice that when you don’t try to control the anxious thoughts that pop up, they soon pass, like clouds moving across the sky. It’s only when you engage your worries that you get stuck.
- Stay focused on the present. Pay attention to the way your body feels, the rhythm of your breathing, your ever-changing emotions, and the thoughts that drift across your mind. If you find yourself getting stuck on a particular thought, bring your attention back to the present moment.
Using mindfulness meditation to stay focused on the present is a simple concept, but it takes practice to reap the benefits. At first, you’ll probably find that your mind keeps wandering back to your worries. Try not to get frustrated. Every time you focus back to the present, you’re creating a new mental habit that will help you break free of the negative worry cycle.
Do positive things. A walk by yourself. Maybe even a walk with a pet. A cheap movie, a good book. Any distraction that will help.
Stay away from Drama or negative people THEY WILL NOT HELP!!! If someone does not want to help themselves YOU CANNOT HELP THEM!!!!!
Leave sticky notes if you must saying positive things to yourself.
Much Love and FAITH,