It is very safe to say that we all have had Family struggles, Relationship problems, friendship issues and so on.
Relationships are not easy, they are not like the movies. Those are fairy tales. Real life is tough.
I just finished a lovely evening with Family from Canada who visit every year. They are the nicest people with warm hearts. I loved sitting quietly watching everyone laughing while interacting, telling stories. It was heart warming, yet, they are some stories that never fade and are never forgotten. Those stories of who hurt who. I began to think of my own heartache, my own part of this planet where I struggle with haunting issues.
I have an on going problem in my immediate Family where I was at fault but at this point, this person whom I adore will not forgive me. I also have an on going ache in my heart over someone who hurt me very much about this time last year. I haven’t seen them in a year. I have to come to a place to forgive him. I’m trying. Every now and then a song pops on from the CD player and it strikes a cord where I begin to remember and I often question was I fooled? I need to let this go. I know that. I need to forgive.
Forgiveness is hard. Holding on to the hurt is even harder, we seem to get stuck somewhere in the middle. That is where I find myself at this time. I am praying to be forgiven and move forward with a Family member as I am trying to let myself put my own past hurt to rest and forgive.
At some point in our lives we will need forgiveness as we will need to forgive. Forgiveness does not mean nothing happened or we weren’t hurt or even that we did not cause another pain. It simply means it sets us free. I know this all too well. We are human so we struggle.
When anger and hurt hold us captive I firmly believe it is chaining our higher self. It keeps love out and hurt closed off in a corner partnered with anger. It’s not healthy to stay angry for years, yet, some people hold a grudge for a lifetime.
Life is very short. Very often those we care for are gone in the blink of an eye. Many clients that I have done sessions for struggle with the pain of hoping their loved one’s will forgive them even though they have passed. They passed without resolution which leaves everyone in turmoil. Forgiveness brings us to a state of grace.
Do your best to make a mends. I will do the same. To error is human, to forgive is indeed divine.