The 10 biggest mistakes we make when we date.

Dating in this day and age can be very taxing, often traumatic. It’s not supposed to be that way. The experience is supposed to be fun and a process that allows both parties to feel a connection and the idea of whether there is a vested interest to pursue more; a relationship. 

Here are 10 of the biggest mistakes we make when we date. 

1. We expect instant connections. You have to really take time to get to know someone. A date is just a date. Let it ride. 

2. We assume each person might be the one. – Let it ride, assume nothing. Therefore, you may find yourself having a better time when you’re not seeing him or her as the father or mother of your children. 

3. We’ve been on a date they should at least call to say hello. No. There is no obligation on a date. Obligations come when there is a connection. Obligations come when there is an agreement that you are both obligated and in a monogamous relationship. This is a date, 

4. We slept together. That should mean something. – As much as I hate to say this, it should but often doesn’t. Sex in the dating world is just sex. If you haven’t notarized your intimacy with a clerk of the court stating stipulations, all bets are off. 

5. I met his family. – It’s always nice to be invited to a social event. Think about how many times you’ve watched a hallmark movie and the single guy brought 7 different dates to 7 different weddings? You know the ending. He finds that one girl that he falls for and then she gets to go to their wedding. 

6. We’ve been out on 4 dates. – Four dates? Four times? That sounds like you are planning your bridal shower. Don’t! It took my husband four years of being in a monogamous relationship with me before he proposed. (He was saving for a ring) Don’t ask. Four dates means just that four dates. He/She or she is getting to know you. 

7. We have so much in common- Many people do. That doesnt mean its official. 

8. I met his/her friends. – That’s a good thing and will almost certainly mean they feel you are safe to introduce you to the people that are important to them. Connections are not only made through the two of you but also via friends and family. 

9. We went away for the weekend. – And, that was fun. But its a weekend not a honeymoon. Enjoy it as that and allow yourself to just be with the person. 

10. We talked about kids and family life- That’s good! That still doesn’t tell you that they want it with you. 

If you are too busy assuming and rushing to the bridal shop to pick out that stunning dress or handsome tux, you’re not giving it the time and patience it needs to grow. 

Dating can be fun, unless your date is picking their teeth with a toothpick after dinner. 

You need to not mix signals and words when being out there. The truth is people are unique and take time to get to know. You are unique. When you jump to conclusions, your are jumping into an empty pool of questions. 

When things move along and thet agreement is spoken that you BOTH want to be monogamous and go forward, then you’re in it. 

I promise you, when someone wants to be in your life they make it known.

I look forward to helping you find your partner! 

With love,

Michelle 

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What is the difference between a Psychic and a Medium?

Whether one refers to him- or herself as a psychic medium, spiritual medium, intuitive medium or any other similar title, it’s all essentially the same thing—the emphasis being on talking to spirits in the afterlife. I refer to myself as a “psychic medium,” there is a big difference between a psychic and a medium. I am an evidential medium which means I can validate your loved one’s by providing significant information along to you about them that ONLY you would know.

A psychic isn’t necessarily a medium, but a medium is a psychic. This is an important distinction and a good place to start, because I meet so any clients who misunderstand the difference and confuse the two.

Psychics tune into the energy of people or objects by feeling or sensing elements of their past, present and future. Simply put, psychics rely on their basic sense of intuition and psychic ability to gather information for the person being read.

Mediums take it a step further. A medium uses his or her psychic or intuitive abilities to see the past, present and future events of a person by tuning into the spirit energy surrounding that person. This means mediums rely on the presence of non-physical energy outside of themselves for the information relevant to the person being read. medical students are required to take the basic entry-level medical courses, such as physics, biology and chemistry. Premed students are trained in the basics before moving on to higher-level courses and choosing their medical specialty, such as cardiology, pediatrics or oncology.

The intensity of my work is mediumship: making connections with and delivering messages from people who are no longer living to those who still are. I receive information primarily and directly from the dead, spirit guides and my higher self. (Universal Law) Although because I am a professional intuitive as well, I am able to focus on other areas of your life such as relationships, career and life questions.
While there are a few different forms of mediumship, I work as a mental, evidential medium, which means I communicate with spirits through the use of telepathy. Spirits impress my mind and body with thoughts and feelings that come in the form of “clairs.” I mentally “hear” (clairaudience), “see” (clairvoyance), “know” (claircognizance) and/or “feel” (clairsentience) messages from spirits. I like to say that I act as the bridge between the spiritual and the physical world, with the intention of healing both worlds.

It’s an experience I never forgot, never grow dull from and always feel so blessed to receive and deliver. I hope this helps you understand better.

Much Love,

Michelle

12 Years later- The Caylee Anthony Case

This past August 9th, Caylee Anthony would have turned 15 years old. Caylee Anthony vanished in the summer of 2008 at just two-years old. After 31 days, Casey’s mother, Cindy, reported Caylee missing. The girl’s remains were eventually found in a wooded area near the family home. 

This case had become near and dear to my heart. It was local enough and being an Intuitive, I automatically had the alarms sounding off. It comes natural for me. It also comes with a price. The emotional factors come in whenever you are doing a cold case or investigation. Most empaths are sensitive to begin with. The good part of being empathic is it allows you to “feel, hear and see”. Being human, well, it’s rough especially when it is a child. I am a Mother of two myself. 

I feverishly conatacted the authorities like I ofren do and have. Its difficult because most Police departments will never tell you they work with an Intuitive and most departments will ignore any psychic that tries to step in. Sadly, this was the case and I was correct on where Caylee was. Non the less, it got me no where. 

Casey Anthony went on to be acquitted of murder and manslaughter charges on July 5, 2011 but was convicted of four counts of lying to police. However, these two counts were later dropped. She served about three years in prison while awaiting trial.

Prosecutors proved Casey Anthony was a liar, but convinced the jury of little else.

The government failed to establish how 2-year-old Caylee Anthony died and they couldn’t find her mother’s DNA on the duct tape they said was used to suffocate her. There was conflicting testimony on whether the putrid smell inside the family’s car was a decomposing body or simply trash, and it was never quite clear why chloroform was so important.

The lack of evidence and the doubt raised by the defense – that Caylee accidentally drowned in the family’s pool – was enough to win an acquittal.

The jury took less than 11 hours to find Casey Anthony, 25,  at the time, now 34, not guilty of first-degree murder, aggravated manslaughter and aggravated child abuse in perhaps the most disputed and dissected verdict since O.J. Simpson was acquitted in 1995 of murdering his wife.

Casey had been seen dancing at bars, winning hot bod contests. She was partying like it was 1999. She blamed the babysitter at firstt hen again when she recounted to investigators that she had told two imaginary people that Caylee was missing. She also lied about receiving a phone call from Caylee the day before she was reported missing. How does a two year old dial the phone? 

Anthony’s eyes welled with tears and her lips trembled as the verdict was read once, twice and then a third time: “Not guilty.”

Outside the courthouse, many in the crowd of 500 reacted with anger, chanting, “Justice for Caylee!” One man yelled, “Baby killer!”

As soon as the jury left the courtroom, Anthony tightly hugged defense attorney Jose Baez, and then the rest of her defense team. All of them appeared to be crying.

Anthony – a single mother living with her parents – was convicted only of four misdemeanor counts of lying to investigators who were looking into the June 2008 disappearance of Caylee. She lied about being employed at Universal Studios. She lied about leaving Caylee with a baby sitter, then again when she recounted to investigators that she had told two imaginary people that Caylee was missing. She also lied about receiving a phone call from Caylee the day before she was reported missing.

 
 

Lawyer Baez was criticized by many legal pundits for his strategy and loosely throwing around allegations of molestation and incest. Baez suggested early on that Casey’s father, George Anthony, helped cover up the drowning and sexually abused his daughter, accusations the father vehemently denied. Baez also claimed Casey’s brother might be Caylee’s father and that a meter reader who discovered the girl’s remains may have moved them, more allegations that weren’t substantiated.

Ultimately, though, the burden of proof wasn’t on Baez.

“I don’t think it was Baez’s great lawyering that won the case,” said Richard Rosenbaum, a Fort Lauderdale criminal defense attorney who closely followed the trial but wasn’t involved in the case. “I think it goes back to the prosecution and the weaknesses in their case.”

How did Caylee die?

A medical examiner was never able to establish how Caylee died, and prosecutors had only circumstantial evidence that she had been killed.

Kendall Coffey, a former U.S. attorney for Miami and now a defense attorney, said Baez had to offer an alternative to the prosecution’s theory of how Caylee was killed, though he was less impressed with the molestation accusations.

“The biggest questions were the ‘how’ and the ‘why,’” Coffey said. “Even the state acknowledged they weren’t exactly sure of how Caylee was killed. That was a candid acknowledgement, but Baez seized on that.”

 
 

Orlando’s chief prosecutor said his attorneys were disappointed with the verdict but they presented every piece of evidence that existed.

Prosecutors contended that Anthony suffocated Caylee with duct tape because she wanted to be free to hit the nightclubs and spend time with her boyfriend.

Defense attorneys argued that the little girl accidentally drowned in the family swimming pool, and that Anthony panicked and hid the body because of the traumatic effects of sexual abuse by her father.

Anthony failed to report Caylee’s disappearance for a month. A whole month passed while this child’s body was decomposing in a watery woodsy grave.  The child’s  body was eventually found in the woods near her grandparents’ home six months after she was last seen.

Prosecutors hammered away at the lies Anthony told when the child was missing: She told her parents that she couldn’t produce Caylee because the girl was with a nanny named Zanny – a woman who doesn’t exist; that she and her daughter were spending time with a rich boyfriend who doesn’t exist; and that Zanny had been hospitalized after an out-of-town traffic crash and that they were spending time with her.

Baez said during closing arguments that the prosecutors’ case was so weak they tried to portray Anthony as “a lying, no-good slut” and that their forensic evidence was based on a “fantasy.” He said Caylee’s death was “an accident that snowballed out of control.”

The Challenge to convict 

 
The six-month gap between when Casey was reported missing and when her remains were found in December 2008 affected the amount of scientific evidence investigators could glean from the pieces of bones, some as small as a pebble. And prosecutors didn’t have any evidence that put Casey at the scene where the remains were found. Six months is a long time. it gives nature her course to leave nothing behind that could be used to convict. 

There was also confusion on why chloroform was so important. Chloroform is a chemical compound that can be used to knock someone unconscious and also is found in human decomposition, but prosecutors never made clear exactly what role it played in Caylee’s death.

Prosecutors said Casey searched for the term “chloroform” on the family’s computer, though when her mother, Cindy, took the stand late in the trial, she said she searched for it. Later, job records indicated that Cindy might have been at work when the searches were made.

Then there was the smell test.

After prosecutors presented an expert witness who said that a carpet stain taken from the family’s car trunk had a smell consistent with a decomposing body, the defense called the expert’s former colleague who testified to the opposite.

Baez addressed his naysayers during a news conference.

“This case has brought on new challenges. Challenges in the criminal justice system, challenges in the media, and I think we should all take this as an opportunity to learn and to realize that you cannot convict someone until they have had their day in court,” he said.

 
Yale Galanter, who has represented O.J. Simpson in a number of cases since 2000, said he was not surprised by the verdict. You need solid evidence. 

“The issue is there was absolutely no evidence linking her to the death. None,” said the Miami lawyer. “So what the defense did was brilliant, they brought up the drowning, they brought up the sexual molestation, and it really got the jury to focus away from the bad behavior of the mom.”

Back then when the case was all over the news I started blogging out of complete frustration and I shared my views and what I saw and felt about this case. It never left me. You can re read that blog new-update-on-the-caylee-anthony-case. Yes, that’s when it all started. I was beside myself as were many others. 

Here we are 12 years later and Casey Anthony has been quoted as saying; ” I don’t care what people think of me, I sleep fine at night”. Do you really? Am I judging Casey? No, believe it or not. I was and still read her. Back then I saw and felt a complete lack of responsibility and empathy. She was cold, empty and only concerned for herself. She was shallow inside, her energy was missing something. It’s as if her brain shut off. 

Though no one will ever know the truth but Casey, I do intuitively feel  she panicked and let her daughter “go to sleep”. Then she decided to convince herself nothing happened. By law, you cannot try someone after they have been acquitted of murder. The Jurors felt stuck in the case. They didn’t have solid evidence. They couldn’t convict. It doesn’t mean they didn’t feel she was guilty, there needs to be proof. 

Since then, I have successfully worked on 6 more cold cases throughout the States. I was happy to see convictions. Yet, it doesn’t undo the pain this case has caused and the immense loss of an innocent child. We must protect our children. Though I do not judge Casey, I also know what she did, how and why she did it. 

Since then, Governor Scott, now Senator Scott has made it a law to lie to the Police. Nothing more has been done. If I were Casey and screamed to the world that I was innocent, I would still be out there insisting they find who killed my daughter! Instead there is silence. Her silence speaks volumes. 

Rest with the Angels Caylee. 

Michelle 

http://www.michellecaporale.com

Michelle Caporale is a Seasoned Intuitive who has worked on several Cold Cases, investigation including NYPD, SC, NC and other private cases. She holds two degrees in Metaphysics as well as a Life Coach Certification. She is an evidential medium able to connect with those that have crossed over.

She is an asset to her community and can be contacted for private sessions at michellecaporale@aol.com 

 

 

Being the Crutch

Being the crutch

No matter who you are or what your situation is, your life is going to be a struggle. Some struggle more than others and in different ways, but in the end, we all struggle to live. It’s the true reason human beings need each other — because without one another to rely on, most of us wouldn’t make it. Arguably, none of us would. People need other people in their lives, and good people are always willing to help friends in need. The problem is understanding what will help — and what won’t — can often be difficult. More often than not, a helping hand turns into a crutch. While crutches are sometimes necessary, relying on them for too long weakens you. Not using your legs for so long only means you’ll find it much harder when you finally have to.  

When we find ourselves in tough situations, we take whatever help we can get. The problem is we often take more than we ought to; it’s human nature. So if you’re the one helping your friend get back on his feet, you need to make sure you help him in a way that actually helps him. Being supportive is helping someone help himself — being someone’s crutch is helping him as if he couldn’t help himself. I believe you should do your best to rely on other people as little as possible. While some might differ, it’s what I believe. If you can avoid relying on someone, you’re better off doing so. My belief doesn’t stem from the thought people shouldn’t be trusted, or we should do our best to live our lives in solitude. Instead, at any moment in your life, you may find you relied on the wrong people. It happens. When it does, you’re the one who ends up paying for it. Sometimes, however, we have no choice but to ask for a helping hand. Sometimes we’re hanging off the side of a cliff and find our arms are too weak to hold on to the cliffside. It’s moments like this you’ll be glad you have someone in your life you can rely on. It also may be times like this when you’re glad you hadn’t been asking for handouts the entire time. People aren’t so willing to help those always looking for help.

Being a crutch is a full-time job — and it only gets more demanding as time goes on being someone’s crutch, you may very well find that person sucking you dry. It’s human nature. People will never change the way they’re living unless they feel they have to. Being supportive allows you to help your friend, spouse, child, whomever, become the person he deserves to be. What Lupton did find, however, is allowing and teaching people to help themselves did make it possible for a lasting, positive change to take place. As the adage says… Give a man a fish, and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish, and you feed him for a lifetime.

 

This is where you come in. When your friends or even family members come to you for help, don’t help them by trying to fix their lives or their situations. All this will do is put a Band-Aid on a wound that needs better medical attention. The only way to help people is by helping them help themselves, by helping them understand how they can best get out of their situation and stay out of their situation. Real change only occurs when the way we see the world, the way we see ourselves, and the way we see our future, changes. Such changes are difficult to make because they often require a complete overhaul of our current reality. Thankfully, your friends have you in their lives to support them and help them get their lives on track. By being your friend’s crutch, you’re only ensuring their continued failure. The only way to help the people you love is by showing them how strong and intelligent they are, and how much potential they possess. Most people don’t fail because they don’t have it in them to succeed.

On the contrary, most people fail because they honestly believe they aren’t capable of succeeding. People who succeed don’t succeed by accident; they succeed because they know in their minds their success is inevitable. These individuals aren’t gypsies with the ability to see the future. The only thing that truly differentiates them from the rest of the herd is their ability to create the future. And the only way to create a beautiful future is by first seeing it in your mind. Michelangelo saw David in the stone and released him. You need to know the life you wish for if you hope to have it. More than that, you have to believe your ideal life is a possibility — a good possibility. It isn’t always easy to have such strong belief in yourself. How can you believe you’ll succeed — truly believe it — if life has proven you wrong time and time again?It’s okay to convince even, your friends the lives they’ve always dreamed of are lives they can one day live. This is really all the support anyone needs. Nearly all people can take care of themselves — what most people really need is a reminder they could be great if they choose to. For More Of His Thoughts And Ramblings, Follow Paul Hudson On Twitter And Facebook.

You’re only given a little spark of madness..

Love makes the world go round and comedians makes us laugh. 
“You’re only given a little spark of madness. You mustn’t lose it.”—Robin Williams. 

I loved Robin Williams, how about you? He’s right, we are only given a little spark of madness. If you pass it by or lose it, your train has come and gone. I’m so grateful he shared his gifts with the world. Though he has passed, I’m absolutely sure he would want all of us not to lose or waste our spark. I found mine. 

I’m old enough to say I’ve experienced so many wonderful and horrible things in my life, including the onset of menopause. (Ladies, you understand this one.) I’ve felt loss so deep that I couldn’t catch my breath and didn’t know which end was up. I’ve also been blessed to feel joy beyond my most pressing prayers. I can’t say I know it all because I don’t but I can say I’m over the moon blessed for these gifts that God gave me and I use them to not only offer honest readings, whether it be your love life or bringing forth a deceased relative but to bring you closure, answers and laughter. 

Grief and heartache take the wind out of your sails. It’s awful, I know. Life is filled with uncertainty and you can be certain more will come. If I don’t laugh, I’ll cry. I’m an excellent crier. I can dehydrate myself in under two minutes or less. If I was paid for each tear shed, I’d be loaded. 

When meeting people and hearing their relatives or friends come through with stories of when they were with them, I often hear humorous tales that only the other party would know. This is where it eases our broken hearts. If any one of you could be in my head during these moments you would need a quick trip to the restroom. 

My grandmother is a prime example. She was one of the most obnoxious people I ever knew but I loved her dearly. You had to understand this was just her way when she’d put the heat on in the car while smoking a cigarette driving in the Florida sun choking herself and you. She was notorious for putting holes on the dashboard, even on my son’s high chair. 

I wanted to smack her but we all couldn’t help but laugh. Don’t worry the car didn’t blow up and my son turned out just fine. I kept her bad habits away from my kids. She was full of piss and vinegar and just like her son, my father, you either loved her or hated her. It’s that warped Italian personality that was so far out there you never knew what to expect but you always knew to expect something. Her passing was nothing short of heartbreaking. I hated to see her go. 

I wont burn your car or family members but I will give you straight answers and bring forth whomever needs to relay messages to you. I’m not here to give you a song and dance. No one needs a story when they need the truth. I’m an Empath so I will feel what you and those you care about feel. However, I’m comical most times. So, expect to laugh through your tears. I’ll cry with you but I’ll also laugh with you too. 

Now, you know why I’ve branded myself as the comical psychic and medium. 

I have to give all the credit to my endearing but warped family. Escpically my father whom I’m crazy about, (My mother is certain to not approve of this but in fairness she’s just as warped.)

I’m always booking private phone and in person sessions as well as open forums where you’ll be able to buy advanced seating. Private parties are also available. 

With love and laughter, 

Michelle