The ties that twist

Walking away from a relationship that you put all your hopes and dreams in is like getting a root canal every day of the week where it doesn’t stop and you don’t know what to do and you have trouble eating, sleeping, concentrating and more.

For some reason, we don’t value ourselves we don’t think that we deserve more. We don’t think that we can manage without that person in our life. We keep hoping they’ll change. We keep hoping things will get better, no matter how many times we have gone through this phase it is over and over and unending. It is destroying whatever self-esteem we have whatever self value.

When I was younger, I let things get the better of me and I took a lot more from other people who are not worthy of my time my effort or have even being in my company, but as I’ve gotten older, I realize that I do have value and I cant stress enough How many times I have said

Its better to be alone than to be with someone who makes you feel alone. You may not understand that until you’ve separated yourself from the situation.

Recognizing your value is a powerful shift. It’s hard-earned wisdom, and its something many people struggle with for years. When you finally realize your worth, you stop settling for less than what you deserve

10 Signs That Emotional Neglect Is Silently Undermining Your Relationship

1. You and your partner misread each other’s true feelings, actions, thoughts, or intentions very often.

2. As a couple, you avoid bringing up difficult things so as not to upset the other.

3. You haven’t figured out how to argue productively.

4. Your conversations are mostly focused on facts, events, or logistics.

5. Your spouse is not the first person you want to tell when something great happens or a problem comes up.

6. If you seek comfort from your spouse they often say the wrong thing.

7. You don’t feel like you’re a team taking on life together.

8. You often feel alone when you’re with your partner.

9. It can be difficult to find something to talk about together.

10. Positive emotions like love, warmth, or emotional bonding feel awkward or only happen during sex or other activities.

    (From Psychology today)

It takes time and maybe even help from a professional to understand that you have worth and deserve love and respect. It takes time and effort. It takes believing in yourself and being diligent knowing YOU matter.

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💕 Michelle