Habits of Highly Emotional Intelligent People

Dr. Travis Bradberry is considered an expert in Emotional Intelligence (EQ) and he proposes these “9 Habits of Highly Emotionally Intelligent People”. 

 

1-They’re relentlessly positive– emotionally intelligent people don’t get caught up in things they can’t control. They are capable of identifying negative thought patterns and focus their energy on two things they can control- attention and effort.

2-They have a robust emotional vocabulary– those with high EQ’s know how to identify and verbalize their emotions. Additionally, they understand the difference between degrees of emotions and can use the correct word to communicate them.

3-They’re assertive- these individuals are able to establish a balance between having empathy and compassion while setting limits and boundaries with others.  They do not default to passive aggressive or avoidant methods of dealing with conflict.

4-They’re curious about other people- they take a genuine interest in others which is a product of their capacity for empathy.

5-They forgive but they don’t forget- while knowing that holding resentment and grudges is unhealthy, high EQ people know how to let go of these emotions yet learn from these mistakes and are careful not to set themselves up in the future. Fool me once…shame on you. Fool me twice…shame on me. 

6-They won’t let anyone limit their joy- they avoid making comparisons between themselves and others. Self worth comes from within and they live according to their opinion of self.

7-They make things fun- high EQ people know how to own their choices and see the positive and enjoyment in this. They know how to make themselves happy and get enjoyment out of life.

8-They are difficult to offend- they are self-confident and open minded. They are able to take criticism in stride and see the value in the opinions of others for self improvement.

9-They squash negative self-talk- the more you ruminate on negative thoughts, the more power you give them. They know negative thoughts are not facts but distortions pieces of reality. 

Unlike IQ, EQ is malleable and can be changed. With practice and effort, you can change and raise your EQ to be a healthier and  happier person. Commit yourself to a process of change…you’re worth it!

Living with Integrity

Hold your head up high no matter how low you feel. Hold on tightly to all that is good and truthful.
Believe with your heart that you can take one more step forward. (You really can)
Know that you were created to be “Brilliant”. There is no doubt that you are just that.
Leave the past behind. It can no longer be lived.
Look to the future with hope, there is always a gift someone will give.
Live in the present, it is just that; a present.
Live with integrity.
Walk your own path, do not listen to the sounds that speak negativity.
Know when you are still your Creator is standing with you.
Speak words of kindness no matter how unkind someone is to you.
It’s none of your business what someone else thinks of you.
It is however your business what you think of yourself. Love yourself.
You are so worthy.
Laugh! Laugh till your stomach hurts.
Live with integrity. It is a simple trick that keeps your sleep sound.
Know that there will always be better – God may close a door but He always opens a window.
(My best friend says God doesn’t like ugly) She is correct.
Be still and listen with your heart, it knows which direction to take you in.
(Remember to listen closely)
Take the high road. No one is worth your soul.
No one is worth your love if they cannot respect you.
Be who you are. Remember you are brilliant.
Respect yourself or no one else will. This teaches people how to treat you, so treat yourself well.
Forgive yourself, forgive others.
Live with integrity.
Truly, in the end it is always between you and your Creator, so as it is with all mankind.
May you be blessed.
Always,
Michelle
(Copyright Michelle Caporale 2009)

“Faith” – The Amazing Dog!

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When Faith was a puppyWhat a dog!His name is Faith! This dog was born on Christmas Eve in the year 2002. He was born with 3 legs – 2 healthy hind legs and 1 abnormal front leg which need to be amputated. He of course could not walk when he was born. Even his mother did not want him. So amazing!

When Faith was a puppyWhat a dog!His name is Faith! This dog was born on Christmas Eve in the year 2002. He was born with 3 legs – 2 healthy hind legs and 1 abnormal front leg which need to be amputated. He of course could not walk when he was born. Even his mother did not want him. So amazing!


His first owner also did not think that he can survive. Therefore, he was thinking of ‘putting him to sleep’. By this time, his present owner Stringfellow had met him and wanted to take care of him. She was determined to teach and train this dog to walk by himself. Therefore she named him ‘Faith’.

In the beginning, she put Faith on a surfing board to let him feel the movements. Later she used peanut butter on a spoon as a lure and reward for him to stand up and jump around. Even the other dog at home also helped to encourage him to walk. Amazingly, only after 6 months, like a miracle, Faith learned to balance on his 2 hind legs and jumped to move forward. After further training in the snow, he now can walk like a human being.

Faith loves to walk around now. No matter where he goes, he just attracts all the people around him. He is now becoming famous on the international scene. He has appeared on various newspapers and TV shows. There is even one book entitled ‘With a little faith’ being published about him..

His present owner Jude Stringfellew has given up her teaching post and plans to take him around the world to preach that even without a perfect body, one can have a perfect soul’.

In life there are always undesirable things. Perhaps one will feel better if one changes the point of view from another direction.
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