The 10 biggest mistakes we make when we date.

Dating in this day and age can be very taxing, often traumatic. It’s not supposed to be that way. The experience is supposed to be fun and a process that allows both parties to feel a connection and the idea of whether there is a vested interest to pursue more; a relationship. 

Here are 10 of the biggest mistakes we make when we date. 

1. We expect instant connections. You have to really take time to get to know someone. A date is just a date. Let it ride. 

2. We assume each person might be the one. – Let it ride, assume nothing. Therefore, you may find yourself having a better time when you’re not seeing him or her as the father or mother of your children. 

3. We’ve been on a date they should at least call to say hello. No. There is no obligation on a date. Obligations come when there is a connection. Obligations come when there is an agreement that you are both obligated and in a monogamous relationship. This is a date, 

4. We slept together. That should mean something. – As much as I hate to say this, it should but often doesn’t. Sex in the dating world is just sex. If you haven’t notarized your intimacy with a clerk of the court stating stipulations, all bets are off. 

5. I met his family. – It’s always nice to be invited to a social event. Think about how many times you’ve watched a hallmark movie and the single guy brought 7 different dates to 7 different weddings? You know the ending. He finds that one girl that he falls for and then she gets to go to their wedding. 

6. We’ve been out on 4 dates. – Four dates? Four times? That sounds like you are planning your bridal shower. Don’t! It took my husband four years of being in a monogamous relationship with me before he proposed. (He was saving for a ring) Don’t ask. Four dates means just that four dates. He/She or she is getting to know you. 

7. We have so much in common- Many people do. That doesnt mean its official. 

8. I met his/her friends. – That’s a good thing and will almost certainly mean they feel you are safe to introduce you to the people that are important to them. Connections are not only made through the two of you but also via friends and family. 

9. We went away for the weekend. – And, that was fun. But its a weekend not a honeymoon. Enjoy it as that and allow yourself to just be with the person. 

10. We talked about kids and family life- That’s good! That still doesn’t tell you that they want it with you. 

If you are too busy assuming and rushing to the bridal shop to pick out that stunning dress or handsome tux, you’re not giving it the time and patience it needs to grow. 

Dating can be fun, unless your date is picking their teeth with a toothpick after dinner. 

You need to not mix signals and words when being out there. The truth is people are unique and take time to get to know. You are unique. When you jump to conclusions, your are jumping into an empty pool of questions. 

When things move along and thet agreement is spoken that you BOTH want to be monogamous and go forward, then you’re in it. 

I promise you, when someone wants to be in your life they make it known.

I look forward to helping you find your partner! 

With love,








Healing From The Past

This course will be offered on line starting Monday, February 3rd for a two hours course 7-9PM EDT. It will be held on a free chat service on Facebook for those who want to attend on line. Literature will be mailed to each participant. The cost will be $20.00 per person. 

Are you struggling with past issues such as abuse, neglect, lost love? Do you have a hard time moving forward from a break up? 

Lila’s Garden Hendersonville,NC  1/23/2020 4PM-6PM

Join us for a two hour course on healing. Learn Coping Skills, Strategies, Motivational and Inspirational Literature and an on going support for the upcoming two weeks after the event. Learn your triggers and how to manage them. Meet people who can share and understand how you feel. 

Donations are being accepted – $20.00 per person. All Proceeds will be donated to the Australian Red Cross. This will help People and Animals that are in a major crisis. You can donate on your own by copying the link above on your own. (You don’t have to attend to donate) 


This is a limited event and we have 5 seats left. Please e mail me for details and tickets. 


Living with Integrity

Hold your head up high no matter how low you feel. Hold on tightly to all that is good and truthful.
Believe with your heart that you can take one more step forward. (You really can)
Know that you were created to be “Brilliant”. There is no doubt that you are just that.
Leave the past behind. It can no longer be lived.
Look to the future with hope, there is always a gift someone will give.
Live in the present, it is just that; a present.
Live with integrity.
Walk your own path, do not listen to the sounds that speak negativity.
Know when you are still your Creator is standing with you.
Speak words of kindness no matter how unkind someone is to you.
It’s none of your business what someone else thinks of you.
It is however your business what you think of yourself. Love yourself.
You are so worthy.
Laugh! Laugh till your stomach hurts.
Live with integrity. It is a simple trick that keeps your sleep sound.
Know that there will always be better – God may close a door but He always opens a window.
(My best friend says God doesn’t like ugly) She is correct.
Be still and listen with your heart, it knows which direction to take you in.
(Remember to listen closely)
Take the high road. No one is worth your soul.
No one is worth your love if they cannot respect you.
Be who you are. Remember you are brilliant.
Respect yourself or no one else will. This teaches people how to treat you, so treat yourself well.
Forgive yourself, forgive others.
Live with integrity.
Truly, in the end it is always between you and your Creator, so as it is with all mankind.
May you be blessed.
(Copyright Michelle Caporale 2009)