What is the difference between a Psychic and a Medium?

Whether one refers to him- or herself as a psychic medium, spiritual medium, intuitive medium or any other similar title, it’s all essentially the same thing—the emphasis being on talking to spirits in the afterlife. I refer to myself as a “psychic medium,” there is a big difference between a psychic and a medium. I am an evidential medium which means I can validate your loved one’s by providing significant information along to you about them that ONLY you would know.

A psychic isn’t necessarily a medium, but a medium is a psychic. This is an important distinction and a good place to start, because I meet so any clients who misunderstand the difference and confuse the two.

Psychics tune into the energy of people or objects by feeling or sensing elements of their past, present and future. Simply put, psychics rely on their basic sense of intuition and psychic ability to gather information for the person being read.

Mediums take it a step further. A medium uses his or her psychic or intuitive abilities to see the past, present and future events of a person by tuning into the spirit energy surrounding that person. This means mediums rely on the presence of non-physical energy outside of themselves for the information relevant to the person being read. medical students are required to take the basic entry-level medical courses, such as physics, biology and chemistry. Premed students are trained in the basics before moving on to higher-level courses and choosing their medical specialty, such as cardiology, pediatrics or oncology.

The intensity of my work is mediumship: making connections with and delivering messages from people who are no longer living to those who still are. I receive information primarily and directly from the dead, spirit guides and my higher self. (Universal Law) Although because I am a professional intuitive as well, I am able to focus on other areas of your life such as relationships, career and life questions.
While there are a few different forms of mediumship, I work as a mental, evidential medium, which means I communicate with spirits through the use of telepathy. Spirits impress my mind and body with thoughts and feelings that come in the form of “clairs.” I mentally “hear” (clairaudience), “see” (clairvoyance), “know” (claircognizance) and/or “feel” (clairsentience) messages from spirits. I like to say that I act as the bridge between the spiritual and the physical world, with the intention of healing both worlds.

It’s an experience I never forgot, never grow dull from and always feel so blessed to receive and deliver. I hope this helps you understand better.

Much Love,


Being the Crutch

Being the crutch

No matter who you are or what your situation is, your life is going to be a struggle. Some struggle more than others and in different ways, but in the end, we all struggle to live. It’s the true reason human beings need each other — because without one another to rely on, most of us wouldn’t make it. Arguably, none of us would. People need other people in their lives, and good people are always willing to help friends in need. The problem is understanding what will help — and what won’t — can often be difficult. More often than not, a helping hand turns into a crutch. While crutches are sometimes necessary, relying on them for too long weakens you. Not using your legs for so long only means you’ll find it much harder when you finally have to.  

When we find ourselves in tough situations, we take whatever help we can get. The problem is we often take more than we ought to; it’s human nature. So if you’re the one helping your friend get back on his feet, you need to make sure you help him in a way that actually helps him. Being supportive is helping someone help himself — being someone’s crutch is helping him as if he couldn’t help himself. I believe you should do your best to rely on other people as little as possible. While some might differ, it’s what I believe. If you can avoid relying on someone, you’re better off doing so. My belief doesn’t stem from the thought people shouldn’t be trusted, or we should do our best to live our lives in solitude. Instead, at any moment in your life, you may find you relied on the wrong people. It happens. When it does, you’re the one who ends up paying for it. Sometimes, however, we have no choice but to ask for a helping hand. Sometimes we’re hanging off the side of a cliff and find our arms are too weak to hold on to the cliffside. It’s moments like this you’ll be glad you have someone in your life you can rely on. It also may be times like this when you’re glad you hadn’t been asking for handouts the entire time. People aren’t so willing to help those always looking for help.

Being a crutch is a full-time job — and it only gets more demanding as time goes on being someone’s crutch, you may very well find that person sucking you dry. It’s human nature. People will never change the way they’re living unless they feel they have to. Being supportive allows you to help your friend, spouse, child, whomever, become the person he deserves to be. What Lupton did find, however, is allowing and teaching people to help themselves did make it possible for a lasting, positive change to take place. As the adage says… Give a man a fish, and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish, and you feed him for a lifetime.


This is where you come in. When your friends or even family members come to you for help, don’t help them by trying to fix their lives or their situations. All this will do is put a Band-Aid on a wound that needs better medical attention. The only way to help people is by helping them help themselves, by helping them understand how they can best get out of their situation and stay out of their situation. Real change only occurs when the way we see the world, the way we see ourselves, and the way we see our future, changes. Such changes are difficult to make because they often require a complete overhaul of our current reality. Thankfully, your friends have you in their lives to support them and help them get their lives on track. By being your friend’s crutch, you’re only ensuring their continued failure. The only way to help the people you love is by showing them how strong and intelligent they are, and how much potential they possess. Most people don’t fail because they don’t have it in them to succeed.

On the contrary, most people fail because they honestly believe they aren’t capable of succeeding. People who succeed don’t succeed by accident; they succeed because they know in their minds their success is inevitable. These individuals aren’t gypsies with the ability to see the future. The only thing that truly differentiates them from the rest of the herd is their ability to create the future. And the only way to create a beautiful future is by first seeing it in your mind. Michelangelo saw David in the stone and released him. You need to know the life you wish for if you hope to have it. More than that, you have to believe your ideal life is a possibility — a good possibility. It isn’t always easy to have such strong belief in yourself. How can you believe you’ll succeed — truly believe it — if life has proven you wrong time and time again?It’s okay to convince even, your friends the lives they’ve always dreamed of are lives they can one day live. This is really all the support anyone needs. Nearly all people can take care of themselves — what most people really need is a reminder they could be great if they choose to. For More Of His Thoughts And Ramblings, Follow Paul Hudson On Twitter And Facebook.

You’re only given a little spark of madness..

Love makes the world go round and comedians makes us laugh. 
“You’re only given a little spark of madness. You mustn’t lose it.”—Robin Williams. 

I loved Robin Williams, how about you? He’s right, we are only given a little spark of madness. If you pass it by or lose it, your train has come and gone. I’m so grateful he shared his gifts with the world. Though he has passed, I’m absolutely sure he would want all of us not to lose or waste our spark. I found mine. 

I’m old enough to say I’ve experienced so many wonderful and horrible things in my life, including the onset of menopause. (Ladies, you understand this one.) I’ve felt loss so deep that I couldn’t catch my breath and didn’t know which end was up. I’ve also been blessed to feel joy beyond my most pressing prayers. I can’t say I know it all because I don’t but I can say I’m over the moon blessed for these gifts that God gave me and I use them to not only offer honest readings, whether it be your love life or bringing forth a deceased relative but to bring you closure, answers and laughter. 

Grief and heartache take the wind out of your sails. It’s awful, I know. Life is filled with uncertainty and you can be certain more will come. If I don’t laugh, I’ll cry. I’m an excellent crier. I can dehydrate myself in under two minutes or less. If I was paid for each tear shed, I’d be loaded. 

When meeting people and hearing their relatives or friends come through with stories of when they were with them, I often hear humorous tales that only the other party would know. This is where it eases our broken hearts. If any one of you could be in my head during these moments you would need a quick trip to the restroom. 

My grandmother is a prime example. She was one of the most obnoxious people I ever knew but I loved her dearly. You had to understand this was just her way when she’d put the heat on in the car while smoking a cigarette driving in the Florida sun choking herself and you. She was notorious for putting holes on the dashboard, even on my son’s high chair. 

I wanted to smack her but we all couldn’t help but laugh. Don’t worry the car didn’t blow up and my son turned out just fine. I kept her bad habits away from my kids. She was full of piss and vinegar and just like her son, my father, you either loved her or hated her. It’s that warped Italian personality that was so far out there you never knew what to expect but you always knew to expect something. Her passing was nothing short of heartbreaking. I hated to see her go. 

I wont burn your car or family members but I will give you straight answers and bring forth whomever needs to relay messages to you. I’m not here to give you a song and dance. No one needs a story when they need the truth. I’m an Empath so I will feel what you and those you care about feel. However, I’m comical most times. So, expect to laugh through your tears. I’ll cry with you but I’ll also laugh with you too. 

Now, you know why I’ve branded myself as the comical psychic and medium. 

I have to give all the credit to my endearing but warped family. Escpically my father whom I’m crazy about, (My mother is certain to not approve of this but in fairness she’s just as warped.)

I’m always booking private phone and in person sessions as well as open forums where you’ll be able to buy advanced seating. Private parties are also available. 

With love and laughter, 




Habits of Highly Emotional Intelligent People

Dr. Travis Bradberry is considered an expert in Emotional Intelligence (EQ) and he proposes these “9 Habits of Highly Emotionally Intelligent People”. 


1-They’re relentlessly positive– emotionally intelligent people don’t get caught up in things they can’t control. They are capable of identifying negative thought patterns and focus their energy on two things they can control- attention and effort.

2-They have a robust emotional vocabulary– those with high EQ’s know how to identify and verbalize their emotions. Additionally, they understand the difference between degrees of emotions and can use the correct word to communicate them.

3-They’re assertive- these individuals are able to establish a balance between having empathy and compassion while setting limits and boundaries with others.  They do not default to passive aggressive or avoidant methods of dealing with conflict.

4-They’re curious about other people- they take a genuine interest in others which is a product of their capacity for empathy.

5-They forgive but they don’t forget- while knowing that holding resentment and grudges is unhealthy, high EQ people know how to let go of these emotions yet learn from these mistakes and are careful not to set themselves up in the future. Fool me once…shame on you. Fool me twice…shame on me. 

6-They won’t let anyone limit their joy- they avoid making comparisons between themselves and others. Self worth comes from within and they live according to their opinion of self.

7-They make things fun- high EQ people know how to own their choices and see the positive and enjoyment in this. They know how to make themselves happy and get enjoyment out of life.

8-They are difficult to offend- they are self-confident and open minded. They are able to take criticism in stride and see the value in the opinions of others for self improvement.

9-They squash negative self-talk- the more you ruminate on negative thoughts, the more power you give them. They know negative thoughts are not facts but distortions pieces of reality. 

Unlike IQ, EQ is malleable and can be changed. With practice and effort, you can change and raise your EQ to be a healthier and  happier person. Commit yourself to a process of change…you’re worth it!

He Wasn’t The One But I Miss Him.


He Wasn’t The One But I Miss Him.

 Getting over somebody doesn’t happen overnight, or — even despite popular belief — when you get under someone else.

Time is a great healer. I have found that it has been my only friend throughout the years. It was never about meeting someone else to replace that person. We usually start comparing if we jump back on the bandwagon so soon.

Emotions are countless they will run deep even if this was the person you knew would not work out. After all you did date him. There had to be somethings you did enjoy about the experience.

You’re allowed to miss him.

You had some good times no matter how long it lasted. However, you knew he wasn’t the one. In spite of any of this what we tend to miss or feel sad about is the “possibility”. It came and went.

What you’re not allowed to do is to confusing missing him with wanting him back. That won’t do you any good.

We miss our ex because we start thinking about the good things. You’re remembering what it was like to have someone around, someone you had some good times with. We are human, we make memories.

You miss the person you liked and who liked you too. BUT remember, it wasn’t all fun and games. You broke up for a reason — and you can’t forget about what that reason was.<p> 

I am a firm believer in second chances, maybe third ones too. I have gone too far, gave too much. I can assure you that they usually don’t work out. The first few weeks’ things are pretty good so I was sure it was the right decision. But then the initial excitement wears off, and the same old issues are still there. If issues cannot be addressed and then fixed, you’re doomed. You are also not allowing yourself to heal, move on so you can find the right person.

I won’t tell you that people won’t or cannot change but it is very rare without time passing and acknowledging what needs to be changed. It maybe that you even have to do some shifting around. I surely did.

Time is your only tool because it’s only with time that people change.

And let me tell you, it takes a lot longer than a few weeks’ after a break up for real change to happen.

With Love,